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Tuesday 16 August 2016

Kindness Costs Nothing


This is the first post I've written that mentions my work. I never thought I'd write something like this, I didn't think there'd ever be a reason to. But today, the line was crossed for me. Working in retail is difficult at times and especially when it's busy. Every staff member does their absolute best and most to make sure the business continues to run smoothly even during these periods. However, there are times when we can't sit back and simply "take it" anymore. Most of our customers are fantastic, I will be honest and tell you that. Sadly, there are a few who tarnish that viewing occasionally. For example, this afternoon I had a middle-aged man verbally abuse me ("filthy c***" & "f***ing bas**** to be exact) and it was appalling. Never once have I been treat so horrifically by another person in my life. Instead of shaming this man, I'd rather spread more kindness than hatred. After the hatred I received today over something so trivial; I'd rather not spread more of that anger/hatred. It's not in my nature to react that way. As hurt and threatened by this encounter as I was, I won't let it ruin my good nature, and I won't let it bring me down.

Later on a lady stopped by and asked if it was ok for her to sit down as she'd just been to physio and her back was crippling her. Instead of saying no and banishing her, I let her sit and in the mean-time brought her a free hot chocolate because she was having a hard enough day as it was, I didn't want it to become any worse for her. After that she profusely thanked me for my kindness, and I felt so much better knowing I'd brightened up another persons day by doing something so simple. By no means am I an angel, and nor will I ever claim to be. There are plenty of others who display similar acts of kindness daily, and you're honestly all amazing. I have been raised with the right morals that I've lived by my entire life so far. As the title of this post states, kindness costs nothing. A little can often go a long way. It's true that you never know what another person is struggling with and sometimes, we as humans just need a little extra love to help us through the day. There's enough hatred circulating in this world to begin with and it's about time people stopped adding to it. Please, spread love and kindness rather than hatred and abuse. The latter will never get you anywhere, and the older you get the more you'll regret the things you said and did to people and how you hurt them. Where's the point of bringing yourself and others down? Being a bully will get you nowhere; it'll turn you into a monster. I'm certain that the majority of people were not raised in a manner that made make them so negative towards others. And even if you were, don't become the person everyone else labelled you to become. You're worth so much more than that.

The bottom line is that life is too short. We need to live in the moment. Spread as much love, kindness and happiness as we possibly can. At the same time, we need to defend ourselves when necessary with words because they will change people's perspective during conflict; actions will not. Being physically abusive will only land you in further trouble; don't stoop to that level. Also, don't be verbally abusive; use your words to invoke thought and change rather than negativity. Every single one of you has a purpose in life; you're all worth so much more than you could ever imagine. Live your life to the fullest, and in the meantime be the best you can be. I believe in all of you, and hope that your futures are filled with more joy, kindness and love than you know what to do with!

Thank you for your support thus far with the blog, and my best wishes to all of you in whatever you're doing with your life at the moment. Everything will get better if it isn't so great already.

Until Next Time,
Luce xo

4 comments:

  1. Thanks for taking the time to give that lady a hot chocolate! And I'm so sorry about the way the guy treated you. I've worked as a cosmetologist--and I've had both clients who have left me sobbing in the breakroom due to their harsh verbal tirades...and clients who have been immeasurably sweet and kind. The way we interact with others can make or break their day, it's a big responsibility!

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    1. Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment! :-) Thank you, although I don't feel it's something I need to be thanked for. I just wanted to brighten up somebody's day. I'm sorry you've also had to deal with such cruelness. It's a shame that we have to deal with some nasty people daily (sometimes). It's always so lovely to get such warm and sweet customers come in because they're the one's that make our days far better. I'm always grateful for them. I wholeheartedly agree with that, it really is!

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  2. I totally get where you are coming from! I often heard a lot of (from staff as well as customers) when I worked in retail and my fiances time in retail was no better. He is now suffering from depression and anxiety thanks to some of his colleagues.
    Keep up the good work. I'm sure the lady was very appreciative and that makes the bad seem like just a blip :)

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    1. It's definitely not easy to work in retail sometimes. I'm glad that I'm not alone in this - although, I had a feeling I never really was to begin with. I'm so sorry to hear that, I hope he has many brighter days to come and doesn't have to suffer with those individuals much longer. Thank you very much, she really was! She was so lovely. It does, it's always uplifting when kindness is given by those around you, especially when it comes from strangers! Even improving one person's day is better than not improving anybodies. I wish you & your husband all the best for the future! Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment :-)

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